Brown Girl In The Ring
Charting parallels between childhood and motherhood by Lou Mensah.
My mother, English and late father, Ghanaian. My partner is Irish and my nieces and nephews, Jamaican and Turkish.
Summer 2009. It was 5.30am as we were packing up the car at the stairwell of our flat to emigrate from Hackney to Ireland, when a local Zimbabwean Indian man, Jack, offered help with the baby as we loaded the car. I could have cried at his kindness. As I handed her over, he said in the most gentle tone “come here, my little joy of bundle” and that was it, I wanted to stay in the place we called home, in the flat where my only child was born, by the flower market where I walked during labour, where the stall holders kissed me and wished me luck with the birth.
I grew up in suburban England during the 70’s, when the National Front lads would chase family members for a, “fucking kicking in”; a time when my parents marriage and my very existence as a mixed race child would have been illegal in South Africa under the Prohibition of Mixed Marriages Act, under the apartheid regime later to be supported by the British Government.
None the wiser, I lived pretty happily, my world was small: Aesop’s Fables, Mr Ben on the TV, NF logos scribbled onto my school books, no one had told me that they weren’t tag initials, but had a darker significance. I played football in the hot streets of the summer holidays, with the local boys, I scored goals, they called me coon, we made dens and walked for miles of adventures by the river, through the alleyways, going home for only my tea. It was innocence as bliss. Until I came to ask what Coon was.
It was primarily Jamaican culture that informed my life over and above the Coronation Street and Mr. Whippy ice cream vans. My sister’s partner was was a Rastafarian, and so from an early age I’d be brought along to dub sound clashes, and it was his mates who’d inform me about politics, and why I’d been called a Coon. This led me to attend regular Rastafarian meetings, praise Jah and listen into to their planning for the Brixton riots. A life of two halves.
I had a baby. We emigrated to Ireland. I left behind these stories of my youth, and yet nothing takes you right back to it like having a baby. I had a renewed energy for setting straight the untruths about race peddled to us as kids. Now I’m taking yet another new road, with my daughter, into home education. Her identity is already firmly intact - independent, critical, self assured. Through the endless trips to A&E we all have with kids, the strength we muster up through their surgeries, their questions, their confusion and joy at the world, we will always have a bright light shining, on our coming home. My little joy of bundle.
You think you’re at a threshold, when
You hold in your hands more
In this little joy of bundle
Than you can imagine
And your life is coming before your mind
Open wide
But you know how to do it, you can do it
Brown Girl In The Ring
Of fire
Coronation Street
Rice and peas
Mushy
Peas and chips
Not so much
Sesame Street
But even still
Playing football, a backdrop of tunes
Til the sun goes down
Coon
Brownie
‘I promise that I will do my best’
Police and Thieves
Sirens and Riots
Eyes wide
For, condensed milk
School milk
I’m dairy free
Irie
One Love
National Front
Blondie Mum
Brown Eyed Girl
You think you’re at a threshold, and
You’ve more in your hands
In this little bundle
Than you can imagine
And her life is coming before your mind
Green green grass of home
Is where the heart is
Slainte!
Wha?
Dublin Bay to Rosslare
Are we nearly there
Yet
We’re going
Plaster casts
Blue light
A half-caste slight
Shall never pass
On our coming
Home.
Mr Tumble, into
Education
Education
Education
Rote aliteration
You’re just another brick in the
Home
Education
Madonna, child
Like a prayer
Already there, solid as a rock
Michelangelo
Holding you
A half-cast light
Shall never pass
On the bright sight
On our coming
Home
Lou Mensah is a writer, photographer and co-founder of Shade Podcast, www.shadepodcast.co.uk
Artworks featured appear in Get Up, Stand Up Now, an exhibition representing 50 years of black creativity at Somerset House, London, from June 12 – September 15, 2019